These Are The Patterns Of Our Lives

Our life patterns are becoming evident, if they haven’t already hit you over the head that is. You know they are! You’ve seen them. You’ve seen the crazy experiences filling in to fit the patterns of your life no matter how hard you try to change them. Where do they come from? How do we release them? Wanting them to change isn’t enough. Stomping our feet and declaring we are "done" does not change them. You know this because you have most likely tried it already!

In time, I think most of us try to figure out ways to work with them or around them. I have a lovely friend who can’t hold a long term relationship. She is also stubborn and won’t listen to a word I say. Anyway, she hasn’t given up. Every time she gets hurt she throws herself into 50 different projects to occupy her time. Eventually, she heals from the heartbreak, and starts all over again. She is very determined. She sees the pattern, but she has no idea how to change it, so she works with it the best she can. She thinks she can outwit it with her actions and by controlling the circumstances. Sound familiar?

At some point, most of us recognize that our patterns don’t make us a bad person, they are just there for some reason. Maybe it’s our karma? Maybe it’s our fate? Maybe it’s our mom’s fault? Regardless, these are the patterns of our lives. And yes, that is a play on “these are the days of our lives”. Doesn’t it all come down to the same thing, those soap operas where the characters played out the same drama over and over again. The person who was kidnapped and couldn’t get back to her other life or the lovers who could never seem to be together. Nothing ever seemed to change. These are the patterns of our lives. We are living them out every day, and until we take some action to resolve issues deeper than the rational mind, they are going to stay there.

One of the most profound understandings I’ve recently had about this is from a man named Bruce Lipton. He talks about the conscious brain and the subconscious brain. He says the conscious brain is the creative brain and where we spend a small part of our day. The subconscious brain is what drives us, literally. Have you been behind the wheel of a car lately? Think about it, you go into automatic driving mode. He explains that this is the same force that drives most everything in our lives. He uses the analogy of a tape recorder to represent the subconscious mind. If you want to change it, you cannot go and speak to it because nobody is there to listen, it’s just a recording.

So how do we do it? How do we make the changes to these programmed recording that are driving our life? This is what Somatic Experiencing and Element of Change addresses directly. Going beyond the rational mind to finally make changes to that annoying tape recorder! Changing the patterns of our lives!

Keywords: Addiction, PTSD, Depression, Codependency, Relationship Therapy, PTSD Treatment, Addiction Treatment, Codependency Treatment, Somatic Experiencing, Elements of Change